Anything Less is Counter-productive
The world is full of good people with wonderful intentions. The world is also full of bad people with evil intentions. My past week has been filled with: “he said/she said”, “You won’t believe this”, or “Why are they bashing people like this?” It was an exhausting week, and I feel drained of energy to do my creative work. My good work. The work I was put here for.
So, I sat back and watched things unfold before me. What I saw was very sad. Sad for me, sad for others who did nothing wrong, sad for everything that transpired. I witnessed people losing themselves and imploding. People were spending so much time attaching and hurting one another, often behind their backs, and spending very little time in the pursuit of something productive, something good.
I really examined the situation as objectively as I could, and came to the healthy conclusion that I would much rather spend my time, energy, and life using my gifts to:
- be the best I can be,
- touch others’ lives in a positive light, and
- uplift instead of ripping down.
It takes much more energy to hurt then it does to heal!
Why spend all of that time attacking and hurting others, when turning the other cheek (if possible), ignoring (if possible), or doing something for the betterment of others not only helps and improves the situation, it is also good and right. I am not suggesting it is alright to be a doormat. It is good to stand up for yourself in a professional manner.
Taking the high road is the road less traveled.
It is lonely and frightening at times, but does not go unnoticed and has its own rewards.
It is also easier said than done.
Here’s the point. If you get sucked into the poop storm, the only thing that will fly will be poop. It won’t do you any good, nor your spirit or overall well-being. Nothing good can come of it. Step out of the storm. Always, always take the high road as often as you can. While it can cause personal pain — we do take things personally — eventually the storm will dissipate and you will find a sense of happiness that comes with your good decisions.
We cannot control others. We can only control how we handle what others do to us. Call on friends for support, prayer, venting, etc. Look towards a positive solution. This too shall pass!
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4 thoughts on “In Pursuit of Good”
Your truth will apply in many many situations, not just people acting ugly over estate stuff. Great post
Thank you for your comment.
~ Best, Julie
Thank you for this lovely post. You have have described my feelings exactly. The older I get, the more obvious it is to me that I’m closer to my end than my beginning. I don’t want to waste my precious time and energy on other people’s nonsense. I want to spend the time I have left to me, doing the things I like and being with people I like. I’m not a doormat, but I pick my battles carefully and try to avoid all “poop” storms. They take too long to recover from, precious time that could be spent doing better and more productive things.
Thank you! Words of wisdom!
~ Best, Julie