10 Estate Behavior Commands

With great reverence for God’s 10 commandments, here are the basic rules which should be followed in any and every estate situation.  Often, we aren’t thinking clearly in the middle of the estate settlement and distribution process.

While there are no laws that pertain to human behavior when handling an estate and the distribution of property, these commandments should be “etched in stone” to remind us how we should behave.

  1. Thou shalt not worship material possessions.  They can be a monkey on your back and, ultimately, you can’t take them with you.
  2. Greed and the love of possessions can be false idols which can, and often do, ruin families.
  3. Don’t forget to take Sabbath for yourself.  We all need time and space to breathe and reflect.
  4. Honor your loved one that just passed away.  Take actions that would respect them and make them proud.
  5. Thou shalt not kill thy family relationships by destroying your chance to find peaceful resolutions.  Mend your fences.
  6. Do not cheat anyone, including yourself, in the estate distribution process.
  7. Thou shalt not steal anything, even if you think no one is watching.  Someone is always watching.
  8. Thou shalt not throw thy sibling(s) under the bus.  What goes around often comes around.
  9. Thou shalt not covet anything a sibling gets.  It’s not worth it; let it go.
  10. Stay true to who you are and walk as straight a path as possible.  Not only is immediate family watching, but your children and grandchildren as well.  Set an excellent example.

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5 thoughts on “10 Estate Behavior Commands

  1. Hi Julie, Tis I. Linda K. Yes, we are still going through my parents estate. Good news is that I finally gave myself permission to do things without family present. Other good news is I hired someone to help me dispose of my Dad’s ammunition and other hunting things. It was through an auction and made around $10,000.00. Still working though on other things. My question is can you recommend a couple of books or resources in regards to coins and stamps? I have unearthed a lot of both. I mean, a lot. It is going to take some time to go through them all and inventory them. The coins may be easier than the stamps. This has been one crazy journey.

    Some day I am going to write a book.

    Thank you for your time! Oh, and I found a ring that was mentioned in the will to go to my brother that we thought was lost!!! People are upset with me, but I have been very persistant in going through everything. That is how I found this ring in a random box of other things. I will be taking it to a jeweler next week. Finally found someone who seems reputable.

    Thank you so much again, for your time.

    I love your wisdom.


    Linda Kozel

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