I saw a post on Facebook about “Being Ready” in connection with making difficult decisions. This thought crossed my mind: Are we ever really ready for anything major in our lives?
- Life-altering decisions
- financial strife
- ill health
- arriving at personal crossroads
- leaps of faith we want to take but are concerned, procrastinating, or just plain terrified
These things seem to paralyze us and ultimately our decisions. Or, are we more concerned with the potential consequences of those decisions that are so frightening to us?
All of these things, whether good or not, can be pretty scary.
- Should I take that job in another state?
- Do I move forward and start that new company now?
- Should I wait for the economy to get stronger?
- Is the time right to move mom into a new living environment?
- Is my son ready to go off to college?
The questions and issues are limitless … and overwhelming!
I think if we wait until we’re actually really ready, we may have regrets that we didn’t do it sooner while we were still able, or sadly, we may no longer be here to make those decisions. I cannot speak for anyone else, but I refuse to live my golden years with “woulda-coulda-shoulda.” Sometimes, you just have to do it or not. The opportunity will not remain open forever.
I don’t think human nature is ever fully ready to do anything. This is why nature itself forces us to go forward sometimes, such as giving birth. Thank goodness nature “pushes” us into it, or we would rarely volunteer to do it! We have a tendency to think too much and over-analyze (I put myself at the top of that list.).
Big decisions or life-altering events require some introspection and time, but not SO much time that the opportunity comes and then goes. The truth is we know the answers already, deep down inside. We already know what the answer should be. Then our heads and hearts get in the way. Nature provides us with that gut instinct. If we would just pay attention to it and not block it, the answers would come more readily.
In my career, I see those who are prepared, those who are not prepared at all, and those who have made some preparations or plans for their future. Trust me when I share that those who have a plan fare better than those who don’t. But you can’t plan for everything.
Even in unexpected circumstances that may strike you or your family, that you are completely unprepared for, all you can do is your best!
Listen to your instinct.
Take a leap of faith every once in a while.
Believe that anything is possible. Even if you are not ready, here it comes.
Embrace it or walk away from it.
Always try to think positively about your decisions.
It’s never productive to sit on a fence for too long.
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