Things do bring instant gratification, but not long-lasting happiness.
We keep buying more things to keep feeling good. Sometimes we use things to ease unresolved pain and issues. We continue to accumulate debt, but are still left unfulfilled and discontented. In the end, these things end up in the hands of family or a professional to sell them.
Want to feel fulfilled? Make a Difference!
- Dress the less fortunate by sorting your clothing, shoes, etc. and donating what you don’t use. Do the same with surplus items in your food pantry.
- Bust the clutter in your attics and garages. So much that you have laying around can be used by someone in need. Find the appropriate organizations and give your clutter away.
- Practice the art of giving from the heart.
- Refrain from unnecessary purchases for at least six months.
Time’s running out for Christmas shopping, your debt is growing, and you still don’t know what to buy for certain people on your list. What to do?
Why buy anything?
Why not give the best gift in the world — yourself?
- Go visit someone you have been meaning to see for a long time. Surprise a loved one you haven’t seen for years.
- Write that letter, bake those cookies.
- Volunteer for those needing your help or visit shut-ins.
- Make that phone call to make amends, because you and your mother haven’t spoken in years.
- Bring your children to an assisted living or nursing home, and watch the residents light up. Have your children draw pictures and then visit and sing for those in shelters or facilities.
- Say what you need to say, and do so right now.
- Ask for forgiveness and always offer it, no matter what.
- Offer hugs to those who really need it.
- Make gifts for everyone on your list.
- Listen to your elders because you will learn so much.
Not sure what to give the senior adult on your list?
- Spend a full day with them and ask them to share stories of your family history — fun stories, challenges, family secrets, marriages, customs — and look through old photos. Record this day and create a book for them (with copies for your family members), so it may be passed down for years to come. Many children regret not having more family history, but realize this only after the loved one has died.
- Find a special photograph and frame it. Ask an elder for a secret family recipe, so it can be carried on; then make it for them.
When we think of the upcoming holidays, we also need to be counting the multitude of blessings we do have, rather than wishing for the ones we don’t have. Make it a special holiday for others, and it will come back to you, in the form of contentment and joy — both in giving and in receiving.
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