Why on earth do we hold on to so much stuff that we never use or even want? That is the million dollar question! As time goes on, I see more and more people holding on to items from estates, that they don’t really need, and truth be told, don’t really want either.
It is natural to have emotional attachments to objects in grandmother’s home, our own parents’ home, or to anyone dear to us who has passed away. These emotions can be deeply anchored to memories of cherished people, places, and special times; it becomes a priority to preserve these memories after they go.
Sometimes, we can go overboard and start keeping things for ourselves, our kids and grandchildren, who may not be interested in them at all.
If you only take one thing away from today’s blog, let it be this:
Emotional attachment does not guarantee a transference of emotion from one generation to the next generation. The relationship between a grandmother and grandchild is different than that of a mother and child, and so on. Each subsequent generation will most likely not feel the same emotional tug that you might. It is important to realize this and to accept it.
When you do not accept this and you continue to hold onto things that take up a great deal of space, and don’t mean much to the children or heirs, you become a storage facility for your family. In addition, a new and unpleasant situation will arise where the next generation (the one that doesn’t desire these items to begin with) must now bear the burden of dealing with the stuff after we leave this earth.
I can virtually guarantee they will not care for these items the way you do, and often are upset and resentful when having to sell or discard them. When this happens, hasty decisions are made to “just get rid of it.”
Choose only your favorite things and let the rest go.
Future generations will be most appreciative.
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Julie Hall, The Estate Lady®, is the foremost national expert on personal property in estates, including liquidating, advising, and appraising. http://www.TheEstateLady.com She is also the Director of American Society of Estate Liquidators®, the national educational and resource organization for estate liquidation. http://www.aselonline.com.
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